Relationships That Hurt

The books, in order

1. 1

   Relationships · 16 min

   Toxic People

   Bernardo Stamateas

   The less your sense of worth depends on other people's applause, the less power a provocation has over you.

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2. 2

   Relationships · 14 min

   Emotional Blackmail

   Susan Forward

   Someone who is always playing the sufferer may be asking for something without asking, and your refusal becomes proof that you're selfish.

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3. 3

   Psychology · 14 min

   The Dance of Anger

   Harriet Lerner

   According to the book, bottled-up anger does not disappear; it just moves somewhere else and shows up as exhaustion or an outburst.

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4. 4

   Mental Health · 17 min

   Codependent No More

   Melody Beattie

   According to the book, anyone who lives between rescuing and complaining about having rescued is stuck in the same circle, and the way out is to change your own role.

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5. 5

   Family and Parenting · 15 min

   Toxic Parents

   Susan Forward and Craig Buck

   People who grow up trying to please often become adults who apologize for everything, and perfectionism turns into a shield that is never enough.

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6. 6

   Family and Parenting · 16 min

   Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

   Lindsay C. Gibson

   In the book's view, the person who always gives in and the one who blows up may have come from the very same home where feeling was risky.

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