Better Relationships

The books, in order

1. 1

   Relationships · 15 min

   How to Win Friends and Influence People

   Dale Carnegie

   Nobody changes their mind because they were corrected. They change it because they felt heard before they were questioned.

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2. 2

   Relationships · 15 min

   The 5 Love Languages

   Gary Chapman

   The way you like to be cared for isn't always the way the other person recognizes as care.

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3. 3

   Personal Development · 15 min

   Nonviolent Communication

   Marshall B. Rosenberg

   Every criticism you make is, deep down, a need of yours poorly translated into an attack.

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4. 4

   Career and Work · 16 min

   Give and Take

   Adam Grant

   The pure self-server and the giver with no limits at all can end up in the same place: at the bottom of the success ladder.

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5. 5

   Relationships · 15 min

   Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

   John Gray

   The most recent research shows that men and women are more alike in how they communicate than this book suggests.

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6. 6

   Relationships · 16 min

   You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation

   Deborah Tannen

   For Tannen, asking for help can feel like a loss of independence to someone who values autonomy, and like a refusal of closeness to someone who values intimacy, and both sides can be right about what they felt.

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7. 7

   Career and Work · 15 min

   Social Intelligence

   Daniel Goleman

   Between the first reaction and the thoughtful response there is a gap, and that gap is where the skill of getting along lives.

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8. 8

   Career and Work · 16 min

   Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High

   Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan, and Al Switzler

   The free flow of honest information enriches collective intelligence and prevents disastrous decisions driven by cowardly silence.

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9. 9

   Relationships · 14 min

   The Fine Art of Small Talk

   Debra Fine

   People who feel heard usually find the other person more likable, even if that person barely spoke.

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10. 10

    Relationships · 16 min

    Come as You Are

    Emily Nagoski

    In many cases of low desire, the issue is too much pressure on the brakes, such as stress and insecurity, rather than a lack of acceleration.

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